When someone is talking to
me, I find myself paying close attention, and listening carefully. Because I
enjoy listening to people’s different points of view, I do my best to retain as
much information as I can. When conflict occurs, I do my best to understand
what is bothering them, and see if there is anything that I can do to restore
the relationship. Being able to recognize why conflict arises is important
because it gives you insight on what things might cause conflict with a certain
individual. Therefore, listening is important when trying to resolve conflict.
Also, if there is something
that I want to say when someone is talking, I do my best to ignore the thought
until it is time for me to speak. After listening to someone I try to
paraphrase what he or she have just said. This way the speaker knows that I was
listening to what they were saying.
Hey Miss Leenie,
ReplyDeleteI'm impressed with your communication method and style. I read through your post and thought you sound a lot like my text book as far as your practice of communication and listening. I am certainly not as disciplined as you are, I sometimes really struggle to pay attention to what the other person is saying. I find this especially when I am not very interested in the topic, for example one of my high school students was telling me all the drama happening in her sports team. Let's say I was not very involved in that mentally, but I tried to respond in a way that reflected I was listening. Sometimes that's the best I can do.
Well, thanks for posting! - Kenzie Marie
Miss Leenie,
ReplyDeleteI agree with a lot of the information from your post. I'm also someone that pays a sufficient amount of attention to a person when they are speaking. During conflict, I feel like I remain the same. I try to retain as much information from them so I can see where they are coming from with their points. Listening is a very important tool that can be helpful with resolving conflict. You made a good point about showing the speaker that you were listening by paraphrasing what he/she said. I also feel that it is complete disrespect when a person is ignoring the speaker during a conflict or just a casual conversation.
Great post Miss Leenie! I relate to your post be it that I also try to do the same when someone is expressing their feelings towards me no matter what it is about. I will admit in the past I often easily got side-tracked and did not pay attention as well as I needed to but as I have gotten older I can now practice the very same concept you mentioned regarding understanding conflict and it's purposes, as well as ignoring my own personal thoughts until it is my turn to talk. I believe that if more people practice this same method of listening first and pausing before you talk, conflict will be resolved and understood much more sufficiently.
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