According to Abigail,
“forgiveness is a cognitive process that consists of letting go of feelings of
revenge and desires to retaliate”. Looking at this definition, there had been a
couple of events where I had a hard time forgiving. One event that stands out
the most was when my high school best friend flaked on me after I went to a
funeral. This was the first funeral that I went to and I was extremely upset
and emotional. So, my best friend told me that we would hang out after the
funeral. However, this never happened. I tried contacting her and was unable to
get a hold of her. I finally gave up and just sat in my room hurt, and
disappointed. At the time, I couldn’t understand why she would have flaked on
me when she knew that I was upset and needed her to be there. For this reason,
I had a really hard time forgiving her.
I felt that she was a bad friend and that I shouldn’t do anything nice
for her because she wasn’t there for me. Time went by, and I still held on to
my anger towards her. I would pretend everything was fine, even though it wasn’t.
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