week 10- post 3

In chapter 10, the author states “relational transgression are extremely problematic situations in which core rules of a relationship are violated, leaving high emotion residues. One of these situations is deception. Deception is defined as “deliberately altering information to change a person’s perception about an issue”. In other words, deception means that you are lying to someone. For example, one of my friends lied to me when we were supposed to hang out. She told me that she was sick and wasn’t able to hang out, but in reality she was with her boyfriend. I feel that she lied to me to get out of a sticky situation, and to maintain our healthy relationship. Because she lied to me, this made me upset and disappointed. I felt this way because she is one of my friends and I thought that she wouldn’t lie to me. Therefore, this led to a problematic situation in our relationship.