Trust is the “belief that another is benevolent or honest
toward the trusting individual, and that the other person’s caring transcends
any direct benefits the other receives as a result of caring”. I feel that I
lose trust in people when they either tell me false information or hide certain
information from me. For example, in high school I had a friend who told me
that they were really sick and could not hang out. Later that day, I saw my
friend at the mall with her boyfriend. This made me upset because she did not
tell me the truth. In the book, distrust is defined as “lack of confidence in another person”. When
this event occurred I lost some trust in my friend. Our trust was restored when
she confronted me about why she lied. She told me that her boyfriend was upset,
and that she was afraid that I would be mad at her if she canceled. Once I got
an understanding of her behavior, I forgave her and the trust was restored.
Miss Leenie,
ReplyDeleteThe second thing that you mentioned in your discussion post was that you lose trust in others when they tell you false information or hide information from you. I definitely agree that the moment one of those two things happens is when I start to distrust a person. Although I feel that it depends on what type of information a person hid from me to make me distrust them. For example, someone could hide something from you to protect you, but it fully depends on the situation, information, and your ability to read the person’s expressions and explanations. Great post!
Hey, Miss Leenie!
ReplyDeleteI like the example you use about your friend and her boyfriend. I think this is an experience that many people can relate to. I, too, have had a friend back-stab me for the sake of making her boyfriend happy. However, I had a hard time trusting her again after what she did. I think it was mature of your friend to come and explain to you her reasoning for lying to you. This shows that she probably would change her behavior in later events now that she knows how it negatively affects you and how easy it is to be vulnerable about her relationship with you. You've proven that you're understanding if she needs to cancel, and that your trust is on the line if she lies. I haven't heard another example in the class, yet, that ends with restored trust, so good example. :)
Great post! I also love how you brought up an event that is meaningful and something anyone can easily relate to. Friendships can be very tough especially when you lose trust in one over something you have no control over. I myself have althink everyone in some way has had a friend who was dishonest to them in some way, shape or form. Trust once it is lost is very hard to regain and the fact that you tried to gain an understanding of the situation at hand is great because I think that helped you forgive you friend in turn. I also appreciate the fact that your friend made it a point to own up to her mistake and you guys were able to move past this; not a lot of people can maturely do that. Awesome job!
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